In our culture and modern society, we are permitted to choose our life partner. Gone are the times of marriages planned by parents and escalating our dowry. It is ironic, then, that individuals appear to find it so difficult to remain with the spouse they have chosen. Truly, in some countries a full half of marriages end in divorce. It seems that these people have forgotten that they vowed to love one another “’til death”. To avoid this fifty-percent pitfall, we need to make it our mission to avoid the marital misnomers, know how to maintain marital bliss and put those skills to use.
We must first recognize that, even though we may be very in love with one another, we will not always feel that way. It may take weeks, months or years for us to first experience this, but it occurs in every relationship. It is during these times that we must realize that the feeling is only temporary and is not a sign of marital damnation. We cannot be madly in love with our partner all day, every day, so we should not have that expectation. When we recognize this emotion, it is our job to reengage with our partner and explore those things that made us fall in love in the first place.
We must also be aware that we, as a couple, are not of one mind. We will have disagreements, sometimes even arguments. However, we must discuss these issues as a couple and create a resolution. It is our ability to remain rational and adult when we have a difference of opinion that keeps our relationship strong. We cannot expect to agree all the time and we must feel at peace with this fact.
We cannot get lazy in our marriage. A marriage is truly a partnership that takes the effort and passion of both individuals. If we allow ourselves to get into a rut, it is all the more difficult to get out of. However, if we put effort into our marriage, we will not have to face that obstacle. So, we should always be aware of our partner and their needs, staying committed to maintaining the happiness of the marriage.
Whether we have been married for ten months or ten years, we must not misconceive what a marriage is or what it means. We must remain cognizant that things will not always be perfect and respond by resolving these issues. We cannot try to hold onto fallacies about marriage. Marriage takes effort and we must remain willing to fulfill our duties as a spouse to maintain the bliss.