I like to think that everyone we meet on this Earth has a place in our life and a reason for being there. Whether they are in our presence for a brief moment or a lifetime, they make some type of impact upon us. The impression they leave upon us does not have to be monumental to be recognized. Unfortunately, often it is not until we lose someone that we realize their place in our life. Then, what do we do to feel complete again once they are gone?
We must first identify what needs the individual we lost fulfilled in us. It can be difficult to discover exactly what someone gave us, as many individuals provide us with so much. However, there is certainly something that stands out, especially when we truly feel a void when the person has passed on. The truth can be uncovered by tuning into our feelings and thoughts when our sense of loss is most prominent or by looking at what triggers us to recall the person who has died.
After finding-out what is missing, we cannot have the expectation that someone else will give us the same thing. We may meet others in our life journey that provides us with something similar, but it will never be the same. As such, we must learn to cope with our emotions about our loss, which will consequently fill that void, on our own. This can be done in a number of ways, but one seems most satisfying.
The key is to celebrate the person we lost in the spirit of what they gave to us. When we lose someone who helped us become a more independent person, then we can find peace with their loss by helping others in the same way. If an inspirational individual in our life passes-on, then we can recall their character and express it creatively. It is more important to remember who these individuals were to us than it is to try to replace them.
In order to recover from the death of someone who shaped us as a person, we must ensure that we carry-on in their way. In doing so, we not only pay tribute to them, but we also fill the void within us left by their absence. The activities we devote to them should not sadden us, but reinvigorate us through what we do in their honor. These are our celebrations of loved ones’ lives.